Tuesday, March 08, 2011


Gosh I can't believe its been soo long since I last posted.

So I have been working away at getting our shit together for the US trip, can't believe it be that long before we will be there. I can visualise travelling to the airport and boarding that flight to LA. I have been madly trying to find a hotel that I like, not too expensive but also not to drab, especially since we will be there for a while. I don't know if I want beach or closer to LA itself. Decisions decisions.

Mum went and had the screws removed from her ankle on Friday just gone, it took 2 days before they would let me take her home, had to get the hospital at home sorted for her blood clots and dressings, but finally she was back home. She isn't happy about having to wear the 'boot' for another 2 weeks but what must be must be.

We have had some friends split which is sad and hard to understand. I don't know about others but we have been married for 18 years now and I don't know if I would say I was 'in love' however I couldn't imagine my life without 'the husband', maybe I am in love, but that is the reason for the split of the friends, there as been no fighting or anything but she isn't in love any more. They have a daughter who has just started high school, loves both of her parents to death, she is devastated of course, so is the husband, he can't see what has happened, which is really sad.
What about you, especially the guys that have been married for many years, could you say that you are still in love or that you love your partner with all your heart and couldn't imagine your life without them like I do? I don't know if I just think that its a cop out.

So 'the husband' has been back at work for the past 3 weeks, let me just say, I am HAPPY about that. He makes more in 1 week than I do in a fortnight even when I do overtime. I have been out buying some new clothes that I feel great and if I do say so myself, I think I look fantastic. Especially since I have brought clothes that actually fit and no worrying about the number on the tag (size wise I mean).

So soon the airline tickets will be brought, hotel chosen and paid, hire car selected, passports delivered, Visa obtained and international drivers license applied for. OMG, I just can't wait. I might even get the opportunity to meet our donor in r.e.a.l. l.i.f.e.


reneasskinnylove.blogspot.com said...

Wow.. You are coming state side!.. I think we discused this once?

Me and my husband just celebrated our 13TH wedding anniversary yesturday on the 7TH..I too could NOT imagine my life without my husband I know he feels the same way. We dont argue often but when we do it is about once a year and they are big blow outs and he has spoken those words.
Now being In Love..Sure I love my husband more now then the day I married him. I am also more IN LOVE with him then the day I married him. Now being infatuated or that passionate in love..NO..That fades in the beginning and that is normal and that is what some people search for and what destroys marriages. They start to feel that with someone else and think that because that is missing in their current relashionship that somthing is wrong when in fact is is quite the oposite. We all want to feel that butterfly got to have him/her feeling and want it to last forver.

Congrats on your husbands new job!

Buying new clothes is fun!

Journey Girl said...

Wow, SOOOOOO exciting!!! It will be great for you to be all booked, then it will become really real, yay! If it were me, I would definitely stay closer to the beach - no offense to any LAites reading but downtown is not particularly nice. Good luck!!

My husband and I have been married for 5 years this year and I am definitely in love with him still - I am very sad for your friends.

Life as a Caterpillar said...

You have so much going on Sue, this is so exciting! I can't wait to here more about your trip of a lifetime!!!

I am divorced, and let me tell you, it is the best thing i ever did. Marriage is not for everyone, and i was not 'myself' when i was married. Certainly, i married very young (12 years ago) but even in my darkest days atm i still so much happier than i was when i was shackled! Of course it's not something you do lightly, and i am certain that even if your friend is making it seem like that, she has done a lot of soul searching to get this far. It is not easy bringing up a child alone, but i remind myself every day that i am thankful to be able to have full control, or influence on my daughters life and i know she is a much happier child than she would be if i had stayed in an unhappy marriage.

It's like you say, after a while there's companionship and loyalty, maybe not love. Certainly, i see that with my parents. They function ok together, but i'd bet my mother would function better on her own.

Personally, i believe marriage is a completely outdated concept. Women are no longer confined to the home, we have careers , our own money, and we can make conscious decisons on parenting (as you are!!) and we are no longer second class citizens, so there's no need to be tied to some guy.

In saying that, you seem to be very very happy with your husband and i hope you don't mind me sharing my thoughts and experiences, with no disrespect to your relationship :)

Your friend is probably going through a heck of a lot, and when all your friends are married, it sometimes feels like there is no one to talk to. I'd say she's doing a lot of soul searching, finding out who she really is and what she really wants from her life, so though it may seem a crazy decision, i'm sure you will do your best to support her


Pez said...

I am sorry about your friends.

I say closer to the beach. LA is so smoggy. Plus when you need to unwind you have a nice beach to walk around and spend some romantic nights on the beach at sunset. Makes it somewhat of a vacation also.

Just an opinion for an LA gal.


Chelle said...

Yay! Some very good and exciting things going on with you. I hope and pray it continues that way. In fact, I hope you are almost at the top of the wheel. :)

I have been with my husband for 7 years this year and I am so madly, deeply in love with that man. I can't imagine my life without him. In fact, I told him tonight about the things that make me love him even more every day. I am a lucky gal, but he is an even luckier man to have such an awesome, doting wife. :D

Debstar said...

30 YEARS. Gorrrd damn what am I thinking? I have been 'In Love' and out of it, a number of times, always with the same guy. Staying LOYAL helped me get through the hard times. Good lovin' gets me through the rest.
Good luck with your stint in LA. Love hearing you sound so positive and happy.